UTAJUAJE KAMA MWENZA WAKO ANAKUPENDA??????

Katika mahusiano ya kimapenzi mara kwa mara watu wengi wamekuwa wakijiuliza maswali haya je mwenza wangu kweli ananipenda? Je mimi mwenyewe nampenda? haya ni maswali ambayo hutoka moja kwa moja moyoni na majibu yake tunayo sisi wenyewe, mara nyingi kwenye mahusiano watu hujisahau kujitambua wenyewe  na hivyo kupelekea tushindwe kujielewa na kujibu maswali yanayotuhusu kuhusu mapenzi au upendo,

Hakuna jambo zuri katika uhusiano kama  kutambua kuwa mwenza wako anakupenda au wewe mwenyewe unampenda bila kuwa na kificho, utani bali ni ukweli mtupu ukweli huo ni kama mwenza wako yupo tayari kufa kwa ajili yako au wewe upo tayari na katika kusema kufa si kwamba kuwa mjiue kwa pamoja bali ni ule uwezo wa  upendo wenu katika kulindana na kufanyiana mambo ambayo yatawafurahisha wote huo ndiyo upendo wa dhati,

Upendo ni  ule ambao unakuja wenyewe unajikuta unamfanyia mwenza wako mambo makubwa kuliko yeye au yeye anakufanyia mambo makubwa kuliko wewe huo ndio upendo na hata siku moja hauwi sawa pande zote, vilevile mtu anayekupenda ni yule ambaye yuko tayari kukusaidia na kujitolea kwa kuonesha upendo wake kwako bila ya choyo na tena kwa vitendo na hata kama kuna tatizo wapenzi walio katika mapenzi ya kweli basi hutumia njia ya mawasiliano yaliyo bora katika kuzungumza na kutatua matatizo hayo. Upendo mzuri ni wa kutoka moyoni pekee jitambue na umtambue anayekupenda

Signs of Being in Love

Love cannot be learnt or taught. Sometimes, you are not even aware when it happens. Falling in love with someone is an exciting, wonderful experience. It may also be bit confusing, if you are unfamiliar with this experience. You don’t understand what is happening with you. If you know the signs of being in love, it will help relieve your confusion and understand your inner feelings.

• When you are in love with someone, you remember him/her all the time. You go on thinking about that person and the happy moments spent together. You are not even able to concentrate on your work.
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• When you are in love, everything in daily life reminds you of him/her. When you see anything or do anything, you tend to recall the related memories of the moments that you spent with him/her.
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• If you concern a lot about someone, then it indicates that you are in love. You always care about his/her safety and happiness. You experience an overwhelming urge that he/she should be happy and comfortable and should not be troubled by anything. It becomes your number one priority. You always try to protect that person.
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• When you start loving someone, you become more cautious about your appearance. You naturally wish that you should look more attractive to him. You become attentive about your clothes and hairstyle, so that you would get an appreciation from him/her. You look more attractive and cheerful and it’s because of your romantic mood. You also try to impress him/her by updating your knowledge about the current issues.
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• When you love someone, you feel that no person is more attractive than the individual you love. You even don’t notice the presence of other people. Your whole attention is concentrated on that individual only.
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• Now you deny spending much time with your friends. You want to spend more time with him/her. You want to be alone and think more about your special person. Even though you are surrounded by your friends, you will find yourself constantly thinking about being with someone special.
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• When you find someone interesting, you wish to know more about him/her. You want to know about his interests, likes and dislikes and career. You are eager to understand every detail of his/her life. You also try to do the things that he/she likes.
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• There was a time, when you were cautious about time or spending the money. But when you are with someone special, you even don’t think about time or how much money you spend to buy a gift for him/her.
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• Loyalty is another name for love. You want to be loyal to him/her and expect the same from that person. He/she becomes the only concerned person for you.
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• When you love someone, you tend to think about his/her expectations. You think about his/her views and needs and learn to compromise.
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• You share some beautiful moments with him/her. You feel happy and excited when you plan about going to a party or picnics, attending a ceremony together. You start discussing about the future plans.

ACTIONS AFFECT FEELINGS

Now that you're feeling so warmly toward the entire human race, how can you deepen your love for someone? The way God created us, actions affect our feelings most. For example, if you want to become more compassionate, thinking compassionate thoughts may be a start, but giving tzedaka (charity) will get you there. Likewise, the best way to feel loving is to be loving -- and that means giving.

While most people believe love leads to giving, the truth  is exactly the opposite: Giving leads to love.

What is giving? When an enthusiastic handyman happily announces to his non- mechanically inclined wife, "Honey, wait till you see what I got you for your birthday -- a triple-decker toolbox!" that's not giving. Neither is a father's forcing violin lessons on his son because he himself always dreamed of being a virtuoso.

True giving is other-oriented, and requires four elements. The first is care, demonstrating active concern for the recipient's life and growth. The second is responsibility, responding to his or her expressed and unexpressed needs (particularly, in an adult relationship, emotional needs). The third is respect, "the ability to see a person as he [or she] is, to be aware of his [or her] unique individuality," and, consequently, wanting that person to "grow and unfold as he [or she] is." These three components all depend upon the fourth, knowledge. You can care for, respond to, and respect another only as deeply as you know him or her.

OPENING YOURSELF TO OTHERS!!!!!!!!!!

The effect of genuine, other-oriented giving is profound. It allows you into another person's world and opens you up to perceiving his or her goodness. At the same time, it means investing part of yourself in the other, enabling you to love this person as you love yourself.

  

The more you give, the more you love.

Many years ago, I met a woman whom I found very unpleasant. So I decided to try out the "giving leads to love" theory. One day I invited her for dinner. A few days later I offered to help her with a personal problem. On another occasion I read something she'd written and offered feedback and praise. Today we have a warm relationship. The more you give, the more you love. This is why your parents (who've given you more than you'll ever know) undoubtedly love you more than you love them, and you, in turn, will love your own children more than they'll love you.

INTRODUCTION

Hello everyone,

Thanks alot for choosing to visit my blog, this blog has been inspired by a day to day life of myself and everyone around me as well as our society in general and ofcourse outside Tanzania.  

The aim of this blog is to share certain knowledges which i believe would be educative and useful to my fellow Tanzanians and whoever will come accross this blog.  Am sure we all know alot and we have seen and read alot, hence, this is just to remind you about the same same things which we come accross in our day to day life especially on our love life, personal issues, education and various events that happen in our society and around the world.


I warmly welcome you to share with me.




Valentine